Tuesday, March 20, 2018

The “Cabin” is the best move we have made!

It will not be a week until Thursday, but I can tell you the Cabin is relaxing, calming, and therapeutic for me.  In can come here and have complete silence, with no activity around me.  No one going down the hallway laughing, talking, or squeezing!  (Yes, power chairs and trash bins squeak!). Just quiet.  I sleep better, feel more rested in the morning, and have more energy.  The staff here at Azalea Trace, Oak Bridge Terrace are sincerely caring.  I could not ask for more.

It took me a couple of days to get oriented, and there are a few details to work out, but this is good for me and, I hope it is good for my wife.  The dog is adjusting well to commuting.  All in all, I believe this is the best thing for me!

Friday, March 16, 2018

Room size

Let me give you an idea of how LARGE my “Cabin” room is.  I rode Destroyers in my Navy career.  The largest ship I served on were DD 963 class ships.  My “Cabin” would have berthed 15 sailors sleeping three high in five three bunk sets.  And all the locker space required, and a Head big enough to serve those 15 sailors!  And I have all that space to myself!!  I can’t understand why some folks complain.  They must be spoiled brats.

Night two

Last night was interesting.  I relaxed finally and got comfortable.  Zeus stayed with me until Midnight.  Then he had to go out and the overnight nurse told me he could not stay overnight.  I did not argue and took him back to our apartment and then I went back to bed in the “Cabin”.  I talked with the AL director this morning and he said he would take care of it.  Zeus is with me again tonight, so we will see.

Linda and I did some more nesting today and things are looking good.  We had an quick appointment with my Neurologist this morning to deal with the Long Term Care paperwork.  We left Azalea Trace in plenty of time but halfway there, we realized we forgot some very important paperwork she needed.  That agitated me and while we were only 10 minutes late it caused me issues most of the day.  It is difficult, tiring, and agitating to try to hold anger in!

Linda spent about an hour in the “Cabin” and then went back to our apartment. Zeus and I are relaxing.  The “Cabin” is very soothing for me.  Even though this is only the second night, I am relaxed and getting accustomed to life at the “Cabin”.

Tomorrow our Son comes to see the “Cabin” and to help me hang some pictures.  Things are looking good.  

Thursday, March 15, 2018


I was notified my room in Assisted Living was ready last Tuesday!!  I checked it out and it WAS ready!!  So, yesterday we started moving furniture that we had purchased for my room.  Some was stored in our small apartment and some stayed with the vendors until we were ready.  Now, everything is in place and I will spend my first night in AL tonight.

Zeus the Wonder Dog is not too sure of this change.  He is very upset my red recliner is missing from our apartment.  He found it today in my AL room.  He was elated and immediately jumped into the chair!!

My TV is not set up yet, but that will come soon.  I am terribly agitated and upset over this move.  Yes, I wanted it.  It is a change and change is not good for me.  There will be a period of adjustment, I realize that and my research supports that.  But all the knowledge and planning in the world does not soften the reality of this move.  I cannot understand how bad this is for someone farther down the Dementia path than I am.  I am a mess!  It must me terrible for them.

I have not done any of the decorating yet.  Not pictures up yet.  But my clothes are there and all the furniture is there.  It looks like home, but not like mine yet.

Another point, Linda and I have decided to call this place our "Cabin"!  It softens the reality.

Saturday, March 10, 2018

The meeting with the Long Term Care Insurance Nurse

We have filed out claim with out Long Term Care Insurance.  We have paid on that policy for over 16 my years and not it is time for my policy to take care of me as advertised.  They require doctor’s reports and a visit from their RN to see if me and the Doctor’s are lieing!  I guess that makes sense.  There are people that scam the system.

The RN set up the meeting for yesterday afternoon.  She was polite, professional, and at least familiar with LBD.  But, she agitated me!  SHe had a series of stupid, meaningless, annoying things to test me including the Mini-Mental test.  Trust me, that test was made by some mini-mental moron!!  I had to go to the bathroom and while I was away, my Wife told the nurse she was agitating me!  It didn’t help.  After the two and a half hour interrogation, my wife walked her out.  During that time she asked my wife if I was a danger to others!!  Good thing she did not ask me!  My reply would have been: Only people that agitate me.

Now, we wait until she submits her report and the Long Term Care company makes their decision.  This has been a difficult, frustrating, agitating, process and if it ever ends, I will be glad.  

Thursday, March 8, 2018

The move is near, my ASS!

On 28 Feb, I was lead to believe the painting was complete and I was ready to move into my Assisted Living room.  Nothing could be FARTHER  FROM THE TRUTH!!   I looked at the room and they had spot painted including the BIG WATER SPOT FROM A LEAK IN THE CEILING!!!  That is like painting over rust on a Navy ship!

Now, to his credit, the Director of AL saw that and addressed the issue.  He asked the Plant Director why they would paint over an obvious leak!!  And, they then said they would address the leak and completely paint the room.  It is March 8 and NOTHING HAS BEEN DONE!!!

Look, if I did not need to move to Assisted Living I would not have asked to move to Assisted Living!!   So, why does it take two months to paint a simple 177 square foot room and find a leak in the ceiling of a one story building?!

I am considering turning off this move to AL here at Azalea Trace and finding a facility that can accommodate my needs.  I AM FED UP!!   And that emotional issue does not help me at all.