We went to to Long Horn lunch today. I have been trying to get my Wife to eat at Long Horn Steak House for a month! She agreed today and we had a great meal. We also had a discussion about my LBD and how she is dealing with it. Now remember, my social filters are not functioning! I was talking about the Memory Support Group and how some of the spouses do not take advantage of the information available about the different dementia's. I then told my Wife she was not taking advantage of information I had discovered and made available to her. She then told me this; I want you the way you were, while understand you need to be comfortable the way you are!
That was an eye opener!! She brought back to my memory how my Dad reacted to my Mom's end days, suffering with Cancer. He would say; "All she needs to do is get up and walk around the block, Ten she will feel better." My Wife told me, my Dad did not want Mom to be sick and that was his way to deal with it. She also said those of us with Dementia are each different just as all caregivers are. I agree with that.
But I do not understand why a Spouse would not want every bit of information about the disease their spouse had, and then use that information to make the Spouse's life easier, more comfortable, and better. Denying the fact that the Spouse has a disease does nothing to help that person. It may make the Caregiver Spouse feel better, but that seem selfish to me. But, I am not the caregiver.
LBD, and all Dementia's are a tough, confusing journey for both the patient and the caregiver. I believe the more factual information both people have, the better both people will be able to deal with the disease. Of course, I could be wrong.
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