Friday, my wife had duty in the Azalea Trace Library. Since Friday is also the day the Azalea Trace bus makes a trip to the Commissary we decided I would shop alone, for the first time in a long time. No problem, I thought! Linda mad a very good shopping list to keep me from spending a couple of hundred dollars on impulse buys and I am comfortable with the folks that normally ride the bus on Fridays. So, off I went, at 8:30, on time, on my own.
The ride over was good and I had a number of friends to talk with. When we arrived at the Commissary, it was apparent everything was different! They were having a "Case Lot" sale in the parking lot. There were lines of people every where! Change! My biggest fear had struck.
I proceeded to the Commissary entrance and to my surprise, there was no line. I showed my Military ID and proceeded to get a basket and shop. As I read the list, all organized by isle, I became very foggy and uncomfortable. I continued to follow the list and walk each isle in the order we always follow. Even though there was nothing on the list in an isle, I followed the familiar path.
As I completed the path and the list, it was time to check out. I had collected a couple of coupons as I shopped and had a couple with me. I actually managed to use the correct bank card to pay for the groceries! Most times, I use the credit card instead of the check card. Not a big problem, but a mistake that frustrates me. But, Friday, I did it right.
Then, I had to find the Azalea Trace bus! The place Frank the driver picks us up was blocked by the "Case Lot" sale. Where was the bus. I chose to wait with other residents until we saw the bus approach. There was safety in numbers.
I bring this story to you to illustrate how frightening it is for a person with dementia to do things that used to be common occurrence. I was very uncomfortable from the time I saw the parking lot full of tents and case lots of food, paper towels, and canned goods. Any change is terrifying.
Will I do it again? Probably. Will I be any more comfortable? Most likely not.