You know we recently went through a down turn caused by a shift from Namenda to Namenda XR. We shifted back to regular Namenda and I am getting less grumpy and my cognitive skills have seemed to level out. So, for the moment, we are back on course. All be it, somewhat altered.
I also have a torn rotator cuff in my left shoulder that has needed repair for quite a while. I cannot lift much with my left arm and my motion is limited in that arm. The pain is significant and I would like to get it repaired. However, general anesthesia is not a good idea for LBD patients because there is a better than 50% chance I will not wake up in the same Time Zone!!
My Wife is against the surgery because she wants me as I used to be! She clings to the hope I will not get any worse and she wants to avoid anything that might make me worse.
That is a Special Love! People often try to change their spouse or friends. I have heard it said, he would be great if he would only stop doing this! But, my Wife likes me just as I was. Of course, I am not as I was and I will never be that good again. But, she still loves me, cares for me, and ignores my many faults.
It takes a Special type of Love to deal with the problems caused by LBD. Yet, she does it with a smile. Through all my emotional ups and downs, my hallucinations, my urinary leaks, and my cognitive decline, she is always by my side, holding my hand, and ensuring me I am fine! She never tells me I have declined. Instead, she tells me about all the things I can still do!
I am blessed to have Linda as my wife and care giver.