Friday, March 16, 2018

Room size

Let me give you an idea of how LARGE my “Cabin” room is.  I rode Destroyers in my Navy career.  The largest ship I served on were DD 963 class ships.  My “Cabin” would have berthed 15 sailors sleeping three high in five three bunk sets.  And all the locker space required, and a Head big enough to serve those 15 sailors!  And I have all that space to myself!!  I can’t understand why some folks complain.  They must be spoiled brats.

Night two

Last night was interesting.  I relaxed finally and got comfortable.  Zeus stayed with me until Midnight.  Then he had to go out and the overnight nurse told me he could not stay overnight.  I did not argue and took him back to our apartment and then I went back to bed in the “Cabin”.  I talked with the AL director this morning and he said he would take care of it.  Zeus is with me again tonight, so we will see.

Linda and I did some more nesting today and things are looking good.  We had an quick appointment with my Neurologist this morning to deal with the Long Term Care paperwork.  We left Azalea Trace in plenty of time but halfway there, we realized we forgot some very important paperwork she needed.  That agitated me and while we were only 10 minutes late it caused me issues most of the day.  It is difficult, tiring, and agitating to try to hold anger in!

Linda spent about an hour in the “Cabin” and then went back to our apartment. Zeus and I are relaxing.  The “Cabin” is very soothing for me.  Even though this is only the second night, I am relaxed and getting accustomed to life at the “Cabin”.

Tomorrow our Son comes to see the “Cabin” and to help me hang some pictures.  Things are looking good.  

Thursday, March 15, 2018


I was notified my room in Assisted Living was ready last Tuesday!!  I checked it out and it WAS ready!!  So, yesterday we started moving furniture that we had purchased for my room.  Some was stored in our small apartment and some stayed with the vendors until we were ready.  Now, everything is in place and I will spend my first night in AL tonight.

Zeus the Wonder Dog is not too sure of this change.  He is very upset my red recliner is missing from our apartment.  He found it today in my AL room.  He was elated and immediately jumped into the chair!!

My TV is not set up yet, but that will come soon.  I am terribly agitated and upset over this move.  Yes, I wanted it.  It is a change and change is not good for me.  There will be a period of adjustment, I realize that and my research supports that.  But all the knowledge and planning in the world does not soften the reality of this move.  I cannot understand how bad this is for someone farther down the Dementia path than I am.  I am a mess!  It must me terrible for them.

I have not done any of the decorating yet.  Not pictures up yet.  But my clothes are there and all the furniture is there.  It looks like home, but not like mine yet.

Another point, Linda and I have decided to call this place our "Cabin"!  It softens the reality.

Saturday, March 10, 2018

The meeting with the Long Term Care Insurance Nurse

We have filed out claim with out Long Term Care Insurance.  We have paid on that policy for over 16 my years and not it is time for my policy to take care of me as advertised.  They require doctor’s reports and a visit from their RN to see if me and the Doctor’s are lieing!  I guess that makes sense.  There are people that scam the system.

The RN set up the meeting for yesterday afternoon.  She was polite, professional, and at least familiar with LBD.  But, she agitated me!  SHe had a series of stupid, meaningless, annoying things to test me including the Mini-Mental test.  Trust me, that test was made by some mini-mental moron!!  I had to go to the bathroom and while I was away, my Wife told the nurse she was agitating me!  It didn’t help.  After the two and a half hour interrogation, my wife walked her out.  During that time she asked my wife if I was a danger to others!!  Good thing she did not ask me!  My reply would have been: Only people that agitate me.

Now, we wait until she submits her report and the Long Term Care company makes their decision.  This has been a difficult, frustrating, agitating, process and if it ever ends, I will be glad.  

Thursday, March 8, 2018

The move is near, my ASS!

On 28 Feb, I was lead to believe the painting was complete and I was ready to move into my Assisted Living room.  Nothing could be FARTHER  FROM THE TRUTH!!   I looked at the room and they had spot painted including the BIG WATER SPOT FROM A LEAK IN THE CEILING!!!  That is like painting over rust on a Navy ship!

Now, to his credit, the Director of AL saw that and addressed the issue.  He asked the Plant Director why they would paint over an obvious leak!!  And, they then said they would address the leak and completely paint the room.  It is March 8 and NOTHING HAS BEEN DONE!!!

Look, if I did not need to move to Assisted Living I would not have asked to move to Assisted Living!!   So, why does it take two months to paint a simple 177 square foot room and find a leak in the ceiling of a one story building?!

I am considering turning off this move to AL here at Azalea Trace and finding a facility that can accommodate my needs.  I AM FED UP!!   And that emotional issue does not help me at all.

Wednesday, February 28, 2018

The MOVE is near!

It appears my move to Assisted Living is very near.  They have done some touch up paint in the room.  I thought it would be totally repainted, but no...  So, they have to clean the room bathroom and then it will me mine.  I did ask for a new toilet seat!!  So, I will most likely be moving this weekend!  I have to contact the bedding store to get the bed delivered and the wood refinisher to get the headboard delivered.  The rest is on me.  I will be busy.

I am excited and frightened about this move.  It is a move into the unknown and probably the last place I will ever live.  That fact is unnerving.  I will let you know how this goes and how I deal with the emotions I am facing.

As an addendum; We had a community meeting today to discuss the numerous construction and improvement plans for Azalea Trace.   The plans include an expansion of Assisted Living and Skilled Care.  Assisted Living will include a Memory Support Facility!!  Skilled Care will be converted to private rooms!  Both of these capitol improvements will make our lives much better.  However, many residents can't see the benefit because they think only of themselves.  That attitude during the meeting agitated me greatly and my Wife had to calm me down a couple of times.  I almost got up and left, just for my own well being.

These agitation and anger issues clearly let me know my move to Assisted Living is the right thing.

Friday, February 23, 2018

Truthfully, this is not easy!

The frustration, agitation, anger, despair, loneliness, and depression that LBD bring on is overwhelming.  Things that agitate me overwhelm my senses and I attack them because I believe they need fixed.  I have always had this sense of duty.  But, it seems to be hypersensitive now and I am unable to sort out my emotions from the facts sometimes.  I am not saying I was wrong about last nigh because I was not!!!   But, it does illustrate why I need to be in a more controlled environment.  But, my safety and emotional stability are being subverted by the lack of a painter.  Oh, there goes my frustration issues again.